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Unlock the World of Kinky Sex


In this article, we’ll discuss the realm of kinky sex, what it means, and 10 kinky sex ideas. Ignite the spice of your life. However, you must seek your partner's consent before proceeding and respect their wishes.

Its popularity and public awareness continues to grow with the rise of films like Fifty Shades of Gray and 365 Days . If you've never looked into fun things to do in bed, you probably wouldn't know about kinky games without these movies.

Define perversion:

So what is kinky sex? There is no standard definition or answer to this. Because everyone’s definition of perverted sexual behavior is different. Everyone’s boundaries and preferences are also different. But in a broad sense, it is an activity that deviates from the normal sexual realm.

Distinguish between ordinary and abnormal sex:

Ordinary sex usually refers to more traditional sexual behaviors that are widely accepted by society, such as penetrative sex or oral sex.

In contrast, kinky sex encompasses a wider range of activities and incorporates less traditional forms of play. This may include BDSM, fetishes, sex with multiple partners or indulging in role play scenarios.

However, it's important to note that what constitutes ordinary or deviant sexual behavior is subjective and varies from person to person. You are free to define what is normal or kinky according to your preference and comfort level. The beauty of kink is its versatility—you have the freedom to customize your experience, embracing the elements that excite you while ignoring the ones that don’t.

Many people enjoy being spanked, tied up and stimulated with different materials. If you haven't tried it yet, don't knock it until you try it. The reality is that about one in five people regularly plays kinky games in the bedroom. Kinky play can be as simple as role play, costumes, or calling your partner daddy, or as intense as hardcore BDSM.
Many people are interested in kinky games, even if they haven't actually tried them yet. There's always room to explore, so don't be afraid to ask your partner if you can enjoy some adventurous playtime in the bedroom. Here are some weird ideas you can try.

1. Explore the constraints:

Bondage incorporates elements of a power dynamic in which one partner is restrained and gives control to the other partner. It ranges from beginner-friendly options like handcuffs to more advanced techniques like Shibari.

Many people find the vulnerability of being tethered to be liberating because it involves giving up control—the opposite of the control we often strive for in our daily lives.

Here are some bondage techniques to consider:

- Restraint devices such as spreaders and thigh slings not only provide restraint but also keep the body open for exploration by your partner.
- Bondage ropes and tape are versatile and allow you to tie your partner to a chair or other furniture.
- Bed restraints provide a secure way to secure your partner to the bed, allowing you the freedom to explore and play.

2. Blindfolded sensory deprivation:

Exploring sensory deprivation by blindfolding your eyes can be very exciting. By eliminating the visual, you can heighten anticipation and enhance sexual arousal. Without visual cues, you become more attuned to the sensations you are experiencing, making each touch feel more intense.

Consider incorporating a blindfold into your foreplay and explore how it can enhance your other senses and deepen your connection with your partner.

3. Explore temperature gameplay:

Temperature play adds an exciting dimension to the sensory experience by blending the sensations of hot and cold. It evokes anticipation and a subtle sense of excitement in many people. Whether you're dripping hot wax onto your partner's skin or alternating between a cooling sex toy and warm mouth, temperature play can ignite intense sensations.

Here are some temperature play ideas:

- Immerse glass and metal dildos in warm or cold water to heat or cool before use.
- Use a massage candle for a thermal sensual massage, letting the warm wax stimulate and tease the skin.
- Experiment with the temperature by placing the lube in the refrigerator for a cooling sensation or heating the bottle in warm water to add heat.

4. Explore influence games:

Impact play involves hitting the body with the hands or a specialized impact play tool such as a whip, flogger or spanking toy. In addition to psychological compliance, impact play stimulates blood flow in the skin and increases sensitivity to touch. It is essential to start with light thrusts, focusing on fleshy areas such as the buttocks and thighs to ensure safety and comfort.

Want to know more? Check out our beginner’s guide to BDSM for beginners!

5. Start sensory play:

Sensory play provides an exciting journey by engaging your senses in unexpected ways. It transforms normally unwelcome sensations, such as scratching or itching, into an intensely pleasurable experience in a sexual context.

Utilizing sensory play tools opens up a world of possibilities for creating a variety of sensations. I recommend alternating between gentler stimulation (like a feather tickler) and stronger sensations (like a windmill) to enhance the overall effect and deepen your sensory experience.

6. Power Play: Dominance and Submission

Engaging in power play, whether in a dominant or submissive role, offers a way to explore different aspects of your identity and desires. An individual may naturally gravitate toward dominance, submission, or may find pleasure in switching between the two roles.

To embrace dominance, clearly communicate your desires to your partner and provide them with specific instructions on what you want them to do. Stick to simple commands and if they don't comply, consider imposing appropriate punishments to reinforce your authority.
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